9 Month Scan

Coming up to the 9 month scan on June 7th.  I can't say that I'm not anxious or worried.  While deep inside I do not feel that there is any recurrence, there is always that small doubt inside that stays in the background gently whispering...what if...what if...and it is that small voice that tends to make me withdraw and recoil at doing anything.  I become emotionally paralyzed until I see the oncologist and she says everything is okay, then I live again until the next scan.  This usually occurs a couple weeks before the scan and I am assuming might be a normal reaction.  At least I hope so. 

About a month ago I started to have unusual pain and nausea and went to see my regular GP.  He thought it might be gall bladder.  Had some other symptoms that could have leaned towards liver issues which really scared me (this type of cancer travels to lungs or liver if there are mets).  Had an ultrasound that showed no gall bladder stones and asked for another scan to show the function of gall bladder and liver.  Sure enough the gall bladder was only functioning at 18% and within a week had surgery to have it removed.  Ironically I felt relieved when they said the liver looked okay (functioning) and it was 'only' my gall bladder.  That was two weeks ago I had the surgery and am starting to feel better physically, albeit not quite yet mentally or emotionally. 

Not too many people understand the emotional roller coaster that occurs when diagnosed with cancer.  Even those who are in remission still walk around with a small cloud over their shoulder.  It takes many years of being in remission before one actually feels a bit 'safe' I guess the word can be that maybe it won't come back but in the early remission years it is a difficult road to put this out of one's mind.  That being said, I am glad I have this forum and blog to write my emotions down.  In a way it is the best therapy I could have.  Will come back in here after my scan and results.  Be well, Marilyne

Anniversary...

I've had some time to reflect lately, more so than normal.  In a few short weeks it will be the one year anniversary that I had my original surgery...the surgery where harvey was found.  A few weeks ago I was having some issues with my stomach, mostly some pain and indigestion that I kept attributing to eating a coconut cream pie (yes, I was a glutton but it was home made and it was good!).  I started having other issues and called my colo-rectal surgeon (who a few months ago fell on the ice and dislocated his elbow so will be out of commission for a few more months - some angst there as I trust him and hope nothing goes wrong while he is gone). 

The surgery center's nurse called me back and we discussed the issues.  She suggested it sounded more like the liver or gall bladder acting up.  Do not want to hear liver as mets from my type of cancer go to lung and liver.  after she consults with another RN they tell me to call my regular MD.  I'm starting to feel a bit of deja vu here...so my anxiety goes up.  My Dr. checks me out and says the liver enzymes are fine when I tell him my concerns and sends me for an ultrasound.  That turns out fine - no stones - no liver issues - I'm still anxious because everything was 'fine' the last time too.  He asks if I want to go for one more scan that watches the function of the liver and gall bladder and I say yes.  I'm not about to be not aggressive about this.  We do that last Friday and I'm done by noon.  By 6 PM he calls me on the phone and says my gall bladder is only functioning at 16% and needs to come out.  So I am not in the process of trying to schedule a pre-op with my regular MD and a surgury with the same guy who did the original one a year ago.  See what I mean?  Deja vu.  I'm hoping the results of this surgery are markedly different from last year.  I want to enjoy this summer. 

I guess I simply came in here to express what I'm feeling right now, whether anyone reads it or not, because it is a nice catharsis to be able to say what is on your mind without worrying someone else or having someone else carry the burden or worse yet having someone else just not understand the issue.  There is so much more than having a 'simple' gall bladder surgery now because of the scars left from the cancer diagnosis and treatment...I found out the hard way nothing is always that simple.  So I come in here and vent and release whatever it is that is bothering me or being thankful for ... it does make a difference and help. 

So for anyone still reading this, thank you -- and hope that this blog note finds you all well.  Love, Marilyne

Back on the rollercoaster ride...perhaps a short one...

Hello everyone.  Been awhile but things have been pretty balanced lately.  Scans have been good - my next one is in June.  Had to visit with a GYN Oncologist as I need to be monitored in all areas and a biopsy they did came out fine but there are some atypical squamous cells there - not cancer but can turn into cancer.  I need to go back next weds to have them do a special scope that is like a microscope for them to look closer at the area. Always something.  I'm not as freaked out as I thought I would be. Maybe because I trust my team and well, it is what it is.  I'm hopeful that it won't lead to much more but am thankful that they are on top of it.  Will keep you posted.  Hugs and Be Well, Marilyne

6 month scan

Had appt with my oncologist today and the 6 month scan came out well.  Still have to see the colo-rectal surgeon for a scoping as he looks close but nothing lit up on the scan.  The oncologist is usually more bubbly and upbeat than the surgeon so we shall see.  I will finish this post after I see the colo-rectal surgeon but it seems to be going very well.

Surgeon's appointment on Thursday was good.  They poked, prodded and splunked their way through Harvey's old house and found nothing suspicious.  Relief abounded.  They still cautiously advised me that they will watch me closely which I am thankful they are.  I do not have to go back for four months which is awesome.  Four months of relatively free thinking and freedom from worry of cancer.  How good is that?

Thank you everyone for being there and for your prayers, caring and concern.  Be well, Marilyne

February 7, 2011

Hello Everyone - I came in here today for two reasons.  One was to let you know that my six month scan is tomorrow.  Follow up exams will occur next week.  I have not been as anxious about this scan for some reason and did not think it necessary to come in here until after the scan and results were in.  The second reason was to mention that I lost a very close and dear friend yesterday.  I considered her as close to me as a daughter.  She died in her sleep at the age of 41.  Too young.  We do not know the cause just yet, speculation was it was her heart.  The reason I bring this sad information forth in my blog is to reiterate once again how tenuous life is, how we need to hold on to our days and enjoy them to the fullest.  To let small unimportant things that might annoy us slide off our backs, to forgive those we may be carrying grudges against, to say I love you to the people closest to you that you might not think to say it to on a daily basis.  Most of all, to appreciate one another for in the scheme of things, today may be all we have.  That's all I have to say on the matter.  It was my way of coming in here and grieving for my friend and daughter.  She will be sorely missed by me and all others who loved and knew her.  Thanks for letting me open up about this in here. 

Post Op Update

Had my post op appointment from the biopsy yesterday.  Surgeon said he was very concerned until the biopsy came back and he was relieved it was not malignant.  A small nodule still remains and he said he is going to watch that carefully and be very aggressive about it (which I concurred with him).  So...I have to see him again in six weeks for a scope and DRE and we shall see what we shall see.  It is all around the same time as the 6 month scan and visit with my oncologist. 

I've come to realize that my life for awhile will be lived in three month increments.  And might be so for awhile.  This is okay...it simply makes me feel comfortable in knowing my team is still watching over me.  I'm not going to say I won't be nervous or anxious or scared with each scan - I will be - that is the nature of the beast to worry.  But if the scans and DRE's come back good, I will relish that fact and enjoy my life until the next scan.  If the scan shows something and we need to investigate I will handle that as well and as best that I can.   While Harvey appears to be dead and only a small piece of his dead carcass remains, we will still have to be diligent and keep tabs on the area.  I feel pretty good right now considering - oh I could complain about some things - residual chemo and rad treatment issues - but I am far too thankful to care about that.  Really.  I thank God every day for His blessings and that is how I will live my life from now on.  I thanked God before but not every day.  Now it is for simple things and blessings that I did not really 'see' until all this happened. 

Thank you everyone for always being there.  Loved all your Christmas cards.  Be well always, Marilyne

Merry Christmas

I was reflecting today and went into my cancer forums to see if everyone was doing okay, to give some consolation and a hug if needed as these individuals were there for me during the last 7 months.  A few of the posts were not as uplifting as mine and that saddened me.  I consider myself so blessed to be celebrating this Christmas cancer free and I thank God for that every day since I found out the NED status.  But...things can change and I know that.  Many of the people going through chemo and radiation for metastases and recurring cancer did not expect that to happen to them.  My heart aches for them and my prayer focus is now on them.  At this season of miracles I suppose I naively thought that everyone would have a miracle.  It is not to be so for some.  And, in thinking about all this, I almost feel guilty for being NED.  I know I should not, but I do.  I suppose this is part and parcel of having cancer, surviving cancer and being in a forum and group with others with the same disease.  Not everyone will be healed, not everyone will be well.  So for those individuals I say a small prayer tonite that they will have a peaceful holiday season and 2011 brings for them some uplifting news and health. 

To all of you who follow this blog, I wish you the best Christmas ever, a wonderful New Year - may you all have happiness, health and prosperity.  Thank you once again for being there for me, for lifting my heart and spirit when I needed it lifted and for your prayers because I KNOW that those prayers worked in more ways than just my NED.  Love to you all, Marilyne